Taking a step outside my pop-culture lenses to highlight an article that was in my morning paper yesterday. According to the article 3 teenage boys have been sexually assaulting the teenage girls on their bus for MONTHS and it was not discovered until it escalated to the point where one girl told her father.
“Three Portage High School boys used threats and fear to take over the school bus they rode and then spent much of the school year sexually touching girls, using aerosol cans to make blowtorches and doing other horrible acts, police said.
The “pattern of unspeakable depravity” finally ended when a girl came forward after one of the boys tried to push her face into the exposed genitals of another of the boys, said Portage police Cpl. Troy Williams, school resource officer. An investigation showed that girl and two other girls reported the boys touched their breasts on prior occasions.”
I wanted to comment more on the comments left on the site than the actual situation. I assume that anyone reading this blog realizes how horrible this is and that the girls did absolutely nothing to deserve this. A lot of the comments left on the website had a tendency to blame the parents, if they just would have spanked their sons, or been better parents they wouldn’t have turned into these “sadistic animals”. Unfortunately, like in many cases like this, people are turning these boys into crazed animals when in fact, they are probably normal boys, who have lived in a world where they felt girls bodies were theirs to touch and that as boys, they can get away with a lot more. I remember high school and there were plenty of boys that were not “sadistic animals” that nonetheless thought it was completely acceptable to grab girls’ asses or make comments on their body and intimidate them if they were alone in the hallway. I cannot count the number of uncomfortable situations I found myself in while growing up. There’s a reason I’m not entirely comfortable being alone with a man I don’t know.
Demonizing these boys does not help anybody. It ignores the broader social situation that they grew up in, it ignores all of the rape apology that’s in our culture, and blaming it on the parents is also ridiculous. I love my parents but there were definitely times where their views, colored by news reports and buying into rape culture portrayed the message that some girls “ask for it” and that there are “good girls” and “bad girls”. How many times does this have to happen before we can stop claiming it’s individual cases and bad parenting and realize there’s something more fucked up about our society in general that helps keep this going.