I logged on the Fmylife yesterday and saw this one
I was immediately thinking about the post I was going to write about how just because it’s someone’s boyfriend doesn’t mean it’s not assault when I saw this:
Sleeping next to someone is, in so many ways, an ultimate sign of trust. You are letting yourself be unconscious around another person. When people ask what is rape culture this is another perfect example. Rape culture is when someone who claims to be there for you and respect you views your unconscious body as free game for fulfilling his sexual pleasure. What is the worst part is this is something that arose because he was intimate with her. While she falls asleep next to him every night he looks at her body as something that he has access to while awake so why not while she’s unconscious. This was not a “joke” or one time occurance either, this was something he was consistently doing, something that had become routine for him. People consistently talk about stranger rape even though most feminists know that date rape is much more common and this is an example of why.
On a basic level in society women’s bodies are viewed as “ours.” People comment on their appearance more than males, people judge their behaviors more than males, and people expect them to control others behavior more than males. This type of belief creates situations where even people who may claim to “care” about you, still do not develop the same type of respect of bodily autonomy. There are too many examples out there that allow them to laugh off behavior as a joke or justify their actions to themselves. People know that “teabagging” is offensive when done to someone that’s not willing but for some reason using your g/f’s mouth to masturbate with is something entirely different.